Tender is the night...

This blog won't be shared on Facebook or Twitter. Not now, maybe later, maybe sooner, but not right now. It is somebody else's grief.

When I was 9 months pregnant, I played a song over and over again to Charlotte in my belly. I could not wait to meet him or her. I was so excited.  The record was Tender by Blur. I later found out it was about heroin addiction. Come on come on come on. Get through it. Love is the greatest thing. I'm waiting for that feeling. Oh my baby.  It is said that a baby will later recognise a tune. Charlotte loves it and we play it over and over again in the car. We call it "The Baby Song" and Charlotte always says, "play the baby song, play the baby song"

This week we found out that her teacher lost her baby at seven months. She is a very special teacher. She has looked after my child from the day she entered independency.  I feel that I have hit gold with this teacher.  She has done a great job and the children in her class have been excited about this forthcoming event that should have had a happy ending. We were told in a well written letter from the Head Teacher that there was no heartbeat and subsequently the baby was lost. So sad. So tragic. Parents and children of the school, particularly Grasshoppers class are devastated for Mrs J and her husband.  The letter advised us to tell our children in the way we feel is appropriate.

Charlotte looked absolutely shocked and said nothing, just stared at me as if she could not comprehend what I had said. Her bottom lip trembled and she asked lots of questions. This will be the saddest news that the majority of the children in Grasshoppers have been told in their little lives to date. Charlotte is refusing to listen to "The Baby Song".

Please Lord, may this lady and her husband find the strength that allows them to cope with their grief and may they be blessed, when they are ready with a healthy and happy baby.